Who pays for the wedding? Traditions, modern customs and tips on how to arrange it
A wedding is one of the most beautiful moments in life. At the same time, it is also a major financial investment, which immediately raises the question of who pays for what at the wedding. According to earlier traditions, the bride's parents should pay for the wedding. But today's couples have a completely different approach to financing. Let's take a look at how it used to be, how it is today, and how to set your budget so that everything runs smoothly and without unnecessary misunderstandings. Just a few decades ago, there was a simple rule: the bride's family paid for the wedding. This principle was linked to the tradition of dowry and also to the idea that parents were ‘sending’ their daughter off to a new life. The costs of the reception, ceremony and dresses were therefore often borne by them. The groom's family usually only contributed to smaller items, such as paying for the music, wedding rings or transport. This model also had a symbolic dimension. It was a gesture that showed that the bride's family valued their son-in-law so much that they were willing to invest in their new life together. In many regions and families, this tradition continued long after the Second World War – and even today there are people who still observe it.
How it used to be according to tradition
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New generation, new customs
Today's couples have a much more relaxed approach to financing their weddings. There is no universal rule determining who pays for what. It depends on the financial capabilities of the families, the priorities of the bride and groom, and the size of the wedding they are planning.
Many future newlyweds finance their weddings entirely on their own. For some, this is a question of independence and freedom – when they pay for everything themselves, they have more space to decide on the details according to their own wishes. Other couples accept financial help from their parents, but set clear rules to avoid the feeling that ‘whoever pays decides’.
More and more often, the question of finances is resolved by compromise. If the parents want to, they pay for certain specific items, such as the cake, dresses, wedding rings or wedding venue rental, and the couple pays for the rest themselves. This division is usually fairer and, above all, relieves everyone involved, as the financial responsibility is nicely shared and there is no pressure on either side.
How to divide the financing of the wedding?
If your parents want to contribute and participate in financing your big day, you can choose from several common models:
1. The bride's parents pay
As we mentioned above, it used to be common for the bride's family to pay for the entire wedding. Today, this is more of an exception, but if your parents decide to do so, it can be a beautiful gesture. However, it is important that they come up with this idea themselves and that you do not put unnecessary pressure on them.
2. Both families contribute
Nowadays, it is much more common for the costs to be shared between both sides. Each family pays half, or they agree on what they can afford. This model is fairer. Everyone involved can participate, no one feels left out, and the financial burden is spread evenly.
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3. The bride and groom pay for everything themselves
Nowadays, most brides and grooms finance their wedding independently. This is especially popular with those who want to have everything under control and feel completely independent. The advantage is clear—no one interferes with your plans, and at the same time, you don't burden your parents with financial obligations that could be stressful for them.
4. Combination
A compromise is also a common solution. Parents pay for some items and the couple takes care of the rest. Sometimes it's the reception, rings, dress and jewelry for the bride, suit for the groom, other times it's the DJ or flowers. Everyone contributes as they can. Moms and dads can participate in your marriage, and you'll have some welcome relief for your budget.
Communication is key
Finances are often a sensitive topic, but that's precisely why it's good not to put off discussing the budget. Weddings involve large sums of money, and it's normal for everyone to have a different perspective on the matter. Ideally, you should talk openly right from the start, possibly even with your parents, about who is willing to contribute, how much, and specifically what for.
This agreement may not be the most romantic part of the preparations, but it will save you a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings and stress. When everyone has a clearly defined role right from the start, it is much easier to plan and, above all, to really enjoy the whole day, instead of worrying about who paid or didn't pay for what, or who can and cannot make decisions about what.
How much does a wedding cost in the Czech Republic?
It probably won't surprise you that the main factor determining the price of a wedding is the number of guests. A small wedding with only your closest friends, family and witnesses can be managed for around CZK 50,000–100,000, because you don't have to worry about large venues or expensive catering.
However, if you are planning a classic wedding for 40 to 60 people, the budget is usually between CZK 200,000 and CZK 350,000, mainly due to the reception, venue, and services that are essential for the day.
Large celebrations with a hundred or more guests usually cost up to half a million CZK or more. This is because refreshments, entertainment, the venue, staff, and accommodation can significantly increase the budget. And if you dream of a truly luxurious and spectacular fairytale wedding, the cost can reach up to a million CZK.
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How to save money without losing the magic of your wedding
You can cut your budget without losing the atmosphere and beautiful experiences you've always dreamed of. The biggest difference will be made by the number of guests – the smaller the wedding, the lower the costs. Micro weddings with only witnesses or parents are now a big trend. In addition, such intimate celebrations often have a more intimate and personal charm.
You can also save money by choosing the location and date. Weddings outside the peak season (May–September) or on weekdays tend to be cheaper, yet just as beautiful. You can also save money on decorations. You can make place cards, decorations, and small details yourself, adding an authentic touch to the whole wedding. Choosing flowers, cakes, and catering can also help. Local suppliers are often cheaper than having everything delivered from larger cities. On the other hand, there are some things you shouldn't skimp on.
Make your wedding exactly what you want it to be
Whether you decide to stick to tradition, split the costs between both families, or pay for the wedding yourself, remember that the most important thing is that the whole day is what you want it to be. Finances are just a means to make your dream wedding come true.
That's why it's worth investing in things that will last. Original wedding rings are not just a symbol of marriage, they are a reminder of the beginning of your journey together, which you will wear every day for the rest of your life. That's why it's good to choose quality jewelry that will bring you joy for years to come. You will also enjoy looking back at photos or videos full of emotions and moments that could fade over time.
At Mialis, we create handmade jewelry for you, with an emphasis on quality, timeless design, and personal stories. You can view them conveniently in our e-shop. And if you want a truly unique experience, consider a workshop where you can create your own gold wedding rings. Or make an appointment (775 462 707, info@mialis.cz) at our studio in the center of Prague and come choose in person. We will be happy to help you find rings that will be a perfect reminder of your big day.
